Family

I just finished reading isis's blog on family and it made me want to share my opinion on what a family really is. To me a family is your "immediate family". Its the ones you are actually closest to and see all the time. For some that may be their mom, dad, brothers and sisters including a grandma, grandpa, cousins, aunts uncles nieces etc. To others it may be just mom or just dad along with siblings or maybe a step parent has entered the picture, your mom or dads boyfriend/girlfriend. Who ever those people are that is your family. In my own personal life my family consist of me, my mom, my grandmother and my three aunts. I know your probably wondering dont I have a father in my life any siblings, cousins or step parents? Well I do. Based on what others call a family, mine is pretty big but to me all those other people dont count in this situation. You have a house hold unit which is you true family. I have a cousin that i am very close to and love very much. She is like a sister to me and yes we are family but technically she has her own family (Her house hold unit). I have a father who i am close to, he didnt abandon me or just stop calling he's far from a dead beat dad but he has his own family whose house hold unit consist of a son, a wife, a step son and other relatives im not to sure who they would be. The catergorey I put the distant cousins, aunts, uncles and brothers and sisters youve never met in are what they literaly are, relatives. These are the people yu are related to and you have a match some where down the line in DNA. If it came down to it most likely they would be no where around. I believe the most important part of a family unit are the siblings. Brothers and sisters are the joy and pain, the true memories of your childhood. Your siblings are the ones you get in trouble with share laughs with and should be able to trust with your greatest treasure, atleast that what I see on tv. The reason I think siblings are the best part of the house hold unit is because unfornatley I missed out on what I call the greatest part of family. I have 2 little brothers but their not apart of my real family. I am my mothers only child. I have gone through life experiencing family, getting in trouble and growing up all alone and if I could go back in time and have any thing in my life altered it would be to give me an older brother or sister. Family is a topic that is hard for me to discuss. I think my feelings toward the definition of family came about because part of family from what I hear were strong and beautiful people from great places but because their gone that peice of me i feel is missing. The other part of my family is disfunctional seperate and just a big ball of IDK. It wasnt always this way, everyone loved each other but like they say all great things must come to an end and that great thing most definatley did. One day ill have my own husband and children and with the grace of god hopefully I can sit back and say this is a real family.